No, You’re Not in Love with Him, you need to Be Him

No, You’re Not in Love with Him, you need to Be Him

Response me personally this: What amount of times have actually you switched around and recognized you and offers to make you cups of coffee that you’d actually been lusting after one of your friends, or that straight colleague who’s always so nice to? What amount of times have actually you sat despairing into the quagmire that is love that is unrequited? In the event that response is great deal, you’re not unique…you’re just homosexual.

These feelings of confusion are virtually a homosexual rite of passage. Our adolescent years are invested lusting after our (primarily right) classmates who, that you’d had more than one wet dream about them that week alone, would’ve likely beaten the living crap out of you if they knew. We hope that these inconvenient feelings will dissipate, because the real world is nothing like high school and is actually filled with ripe homosexuals who’ll lust after us and love us back when we get older. This will be, regrettably, just partially real, because as grownups those straight males become homosexual males, and thus, while there is a little bit of reciprocity, we’re still left fancying a friend, co-worker, or that adorable guy whom works at Barnes & Noble and whose glance constantly lingers just a little a long time whenever you purchase a novel (and also you buy way too many because of said guy that is cute. You need to really stop purchasing therefore numerous publications. Why’ve you purchased this books that are many).

During my head, this repetitive pattern does occur for a explanation:

The definitions of friendships and relationships aren’t as formulaic or cookie-cutter as for our heterosexual pals, and that’s because the distinctions between platonic and romantic love don’t quite fit queer experiences for queer people. Continue reading No, You’re Not in Love with Him, you need to Be Him